Hey there mama!
So you want to be more emotionally available for your kids?
But you're juggling so much🌪️
And you're exhausted 😩!
I get it.
Showing up for your kids, when you feel like you’re drowning in life is no easy feat.
So remember: It’s a practice.
If it feels like a lot at first
That's because it is.
But it's okay.
You got this.
And it's so worth it.
Because when you are able to focus on your kid's with an open mind and curiosity:
❇️ They feel safe and valued.
There's nothing your kid needs more from you than to feel wanted.
❇️ When you consciously create a space where you tap into your kids' emotional states, you are supporting their emotional development and well being.
When you can recognize and understand what your kid is feeling, they feel held, even when you're not there.
❇️ When you share space with your kids today, you are laying the groundwork for loving and meaningful connections with your kids into adulthood.
❇️ And, if nothing else, sharing moments of connection with your kids, where they feel seen, safe and satisfied, just feels so good- for them and for YOU too.
Of course, you don't have to be 100% available 100% of the time.
In fact, your kids need to know that they can experience themselves as separate people
With their own individual experience.
But they need to know that there's someone there who is interested in their experience.
Because kids who don't have caregivers who are interested in their world:
🔸Have lower self esteem.
That means they don't see how awesome they are 😢
🔸 Are more depressed.
Which is another way of saying they feel heartbroken 💔
Not only because they feel disconnected from their caregiver.
But because they feel disconnected from themselves.
🔸Have a much harder time forming and maintaining relationships.
🔸Struggle to effectively communicate (which is closely connected to the 🔸👆)
🔸And probably the most notable impact a parent's emotional absence has, is that kids act out more.
But don't fret!
I'm here to help.
👉Here are 5 tips to practice becoming more emotionally available, even when you feel tired and distracted
1️⃣ Take a deep breath.
Not because it's some magic trick to get you calm.
But because taking an intentional breath will help you self regulate.
When you feel in control, you can be more focused and present in the moment with your child.
But remember, this takes practice!
2️⃣ Put away any distractions.
I say, set a timer and put your phone on a shelf.
Whatever amount of time you choose, decrease it by two minutes.
This isn't a competition.
You're not trying to prove anything.
This is an experiment.
Let's just see what it feels like to disconnect from tech and engage fully with my kid.
Is it uncomfortable?
Bring back that breath and try #3 👇.
3️⃣ Make eye contact and listen actively to what your child is saying.
This will help you stay focused on your kid (when your brain is running🏃♀️ in a million directions).
Instead of trying to say, or do the right thing here
Try getting curious about what they're saying and sharing about their experience 🤔.
4️⃣ Avoid multitasking.
That means that when something comes to mind, like you have to add ketchup to the shopping list
Remind yourself that it's okay.
You'll get to it when the timer goes.
Right now, bring your attention back.
You're connecting with your kiddo 😍.
5️⃣ Get help.
You don't need to figure this out alone.
I help moms who want to feel more at ease in their interactions with their kids get to the bottom of their distraction, so they can feel less harried and enjoy their kids like they know they should 😉
I have helped 100s of women who are tired of trying to do it alone, figure out what's really going on for them, and feel more present and connected with their kids.
If you are ready to go from feeling overwhelmed and weighed down, to feeling more present and at peace, click here to schedule a chat.