So, you know that feeling when your kid pushes your buttons
And you snap with a quick, aggressive reaction 🤯
You feel justified at the time 🤷🏽♀️
But it's not long until you start to question yourself as a parent🤦🏻♀️
And ask: What the heck just came over me!?
👉Here are 5 tips to help you understand your triggers, so they don't keep sabotaging your connection with your kids:
1.Identify your triggers: Take some time to think about what situations, or events, tend to trigger an emotional response in you.
These could be things like arguments, the tone of your kid's voice,. criticism, or certain types of news or media.
2. Reflect on your reactions:
When you realize 🤦🏻♀️"Oops, I over reacted ", take a moment to suspend your self judgment
(you're NOT the worst-you're human)
And reflect on your reactions.
👉What were you feeling just before you acted out?
👉How do you react/what do you do?
👉If you weren't acting out, what uncomfortable emotions would you have to face?
3.Explore the root cause of your triggers:
Triggers often have a deeper root cause, such as a past experience or belief.
Take some time to reflect on why a particular trigger has such a strong effect on you.
Engaging in self-care activities can help you feel more grounded and in control of your emotions.
This could include things like exercise, meditation, or spending time with loved ones.
(notice how manicure isn't included in that list 💅?)
Remember: Self-care is about caring for yourself.
So figure out what you need and implement changes that ensure you meet those needs.
Need help with that?
If you are having difficulty managing your triggers on your own, consider seeking support from a mental health professional (like me), or joining a support group (like the Parent with Confidence program).
Both can provide you with tools, strategies and support for managing your triggers and emotions.
If you want to parent better
But just don't know where to begin, hit reply to this email and tell me what's going on.
I'll invite you to connect for a free 60 minute consultation.
You'll tell me what's up, and I'll tell you what you gotta do to go from feeling overwhelmed to calm and confident in your parenting.
My job in our chat is to help you get clear on your next steps.
If that means working with me, I'll invite you into a life-changing coaching relationship with me.
But if I'm not the right address to help, I'll make sure to steer you in the direction that is right for you.