So you know that feeling when your kid starts rattling off some random event from their day? 😵💫
You're waiting for the pasta to boil while trying to wash up some dishes from breakfast 🏃♀️and they're completely oblivious.
You try to focus on the details, but can't quite seem to follow.
The timer goes.
You turn your attention to the boiling pot of pasta.
Your kid accuses you of not listening.
And you snap! 😤
DON'T YOU SEE WHAT'S GOING ON HERE! GIVE ME A MINUTE WILL YOU?! I DON'T EVEN UNDERSTAND WHAT THE HELL YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT?
You can hear the words coming out of your mouth, but they're spilling out so fast, that you can't seem to stop them.
Your kid runs out of the room in tears.
Dinner is stuffed.
And all you can think is:
"Shit, I did it again. Why can't I control mysrlf!? What the hell is wrong with me!?"
✋HOLD IT RIGHT THERE MAMA!
There's a lot happening
❗But there is NOTHING wrong with you!❗
First off, let's acknowledge the fact that- even when you're stumbling- you know how important it is to show up and get curious about your kid's inner world.
That's a lot more than I can say for our parents' generation.
They would mess up and just pretend like nothing happened 🤦🏻♀️
So you can give yourself some credit there.
Next, if you're having a hard time focusing there's good reason for that:
1. Your kid's stories don't really make all that much sense and they're not very interesting. You're pretty good at showing up, but by the end of a long day, it makes sense that you've run out of steam.🤦🏻♀️
2. You're juggling a million things at once trying to get stuff done so people can get fed and maybe, just maybe, you can get a break. It's hard to focus when so many other things are pulling at your attention.
3. If you're anything like the moms I help to own the struggle and parent better, you probably didn't have the best example of how to actively and consistently tune in to your kid. So you're really just learning as you go. And messing up is part of the process.
So instead of berating yourself that next time you snap
Try offering yourself a bit of compassion and understanding.
But if that doesn't cut it, and you're really tired of kicking yourself when you snap
And you want to feel more in control in the chaos once and for all
Then click here to book a consultation call and let's dig deeper and get to the root of your automatic reactions.
I have helped 100s of women understand what's really going on for them under the surface
Because when you know what's really distracting you and why you're so impatient all the time
You can become the present and patient mama you always imagined you'd be.
And you're kids will get the attention and connection they need to build strong relationships, and lead positive and fulfilling life.
Book a consultation here and together we'll decide if we're a good fit.
You'll tell me what's going on and if I think I can help, I'll invite you to work with me.
If not, I'll steer you in the direction that's right for you.